We've heard countless of times women make the statement, "Good men are hard to find". We treat good men as if they are unicorns. Is it that they really are a rare breed, or should we reconsider the type of men that we've typically exposed ourselves to?
What makes a man a "Good Man"? Some women define a good man based on his character, while others focus on what he has. Some women look at what he does for a living, while others measure him by his faith and spirituality. The point is, different women think of good men in different ways. I once read a quote that stated, "As women, it is imperative that we learn to look in a man, rather than looking at him". Holding this statement to be true, I think it is important that if we women want a "good man", we have to know a little something about them. I won't make you wait anymore. Below are a few things that I've learned about good men, based on my experiences. Feel free to let me know your top 3 things in the comments section below!
I. They Will Never Be Perfect.
Women often confuse the idea of a good man with a perfect man. I know that I've made the mistake at one point in life believing that good men shouldn't be able to make mistakes because they "know better". Wouldn't it be nice if we could find someone who could do everything right? Believe it or not, putting this kind if pressure on a man can be more detrimental to a relationship. Good men will never be perfect, but the beauty of their imperfections inspires you to still love them. It's best to focus on their love, effort, and commitment, which in many cases is unparalleled.
II. They Pay Attention.
Good men take the time to learn their mates. They pay attention to what you like and don't like, how you think, your emotions, how you respond to different situations, and especially your energy. They understand the value in knowing YOU, because it will help them in the long run. They take the initiative to learn you so that they can keep you happy. They don't need to be prompted to spoil you with love, but they see a need, and makes it a priority to fulfill it.
III. They Have Standards, Too.
Ladies, we have a long list of expectations that some of us are not willing to compromise on. Good men have standards, too. Believe it or not, they also think about what they do and don't want in a partner. They also want someone who can bring something to the table. They don't want someone to just take up space in their lives, but rather they want someone whose presence will add value to their lives. So before you say there are no good men, make sure you are a good woman.